Nothing more fun than meeting your 'bestie' for coffee and getting some good girlfriend guidance! But, now, picture four best friends —sexy, hot and rich — who hang out, drink cocktails, shop, talk about love, sex, marriage and divorce. It is like Sex and the City if you took Carrie Bradshaw and Miranda, fast-forwarded, and watch their marriages unraveled. Welcome to Bravo’s original series Girlfriends' Guide to Divorce! My new Netflix obsession I publically admit. It is highly addictive whether you are going through a divorce or not. You will be up for hours watching season 1 .... I am warning you now!
These girlfriends are not what most of our divorces look like. Most of America’s divorces look like a hot mess despite our best efforts! But, it is intriguing to watch the rich and beautiful navigate this life-changing crisis.
Girlfriends' Guide to Divorce is based on a popular series of self-help books by Vicki Iovine. The show stars Lisa Edelstein who plays a self-help writer and superstar mom Abby McCarthy. She’s has become my new favorite TV girlfriend, advising contemporary women on pregnancy, motherhood and how to “get your groove back.” Her bestselling books are based on what appears to be a perfect marriage and family, and how she comfortably supports her family with a posh home, private school, designer clothes and her out-of-work husband, Jake.
Honestly, most of us cannot relate to this designer lifestyle but we can relate to the entangled complications of marriage and divorce. Bravo just makes divorce look prettier than most of us do! I think secretly, I want to see if there is a happily ever after post divorce. But, I remind myself this is TV and not real life! The happily ever after is up to me.
In real life we all see the perfect marriage posts on our Facebook feed daily. We all know that the uber happy home is seldom what they seem. In fact some people overcompensate publically for what is missing privately. So don't fall into the trap of comparing yours to others.
Abby and her husband Jake grew apart like many couples do. They both grumble before their morning parenting charade begins each day. As you can imagine, Abby’s under stress and she finally cracks. She loses her book deal and her publisher. Her husband moves out and Abby who is the breadwinner pre-divorce has to compensate him for all the years he was a stay-at-home dad. This sure is a role reversal for most Americans. Most of us are wives who gave up careers and our earning potential to be mothers and spouses. But, I do like Hollywood's take on this role reversal.
Divorce isn't easy. It actually is a lot harder than we ever could imagine. But, with the help from a few true friends who are willing to sit in the trenches with you... we all make it through. It is not glamorous like Hollywood makes it look like. But, I am glad there is a new show about a close group of friends back on TV. It is like the Sex and the City girls grew up! So, grab your glass of wine, curl up on the sofa, celebrate friendship and indulge in this series. It just may be a reminder that you are not alone and what you have isn't that bad!
Hugs and happiness,